In Memory

Vivian Inez Clapp (Falzetti)



I received this message a few minutes ago, from Vivian's niece, Cathy. Vivian passed away in Palos Verdes, California this evening (January 18, 2015), after 10 months' bout with cancer.

Pam Davis (Cotton)

"Vivian passed away today at 3:52 pm (Pacific Standard Time). She passed at home in the presence of Doug and Danny. Thank you all for sending your prayers and being supportive of Doug and my mom who walked with Vivian down the cancer path since March. It was an honor to be with her these last few weeks."

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01/19/15 02:25 PM #1    

Klaus Hille

During our senior year Vivian was a Lieutenant in Irvin's first ROTC program, and an alternate for "royalty" representing Irvin at High School Spring Festivals. She was a friend to many classmates. Some knew her from Bassett JHS days.

Vivian had posted on her Profile page that she was still married to Doug, has one son and two grandchildren.  Retired in 2012 -  was working for an infant bedding company as Senior Textile Designer - loved what she did, but was ready not to drive in (to work) every day. 

Just completed an IBook ... Vivian Falzetti's Textile Design... Repeats, Tips and Tricks...

(See Links below)


"Therefore we do not lose heart. Though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.  For our light and momentary troubles are achieving for us an eternal glory that far outweighs them all.  So we fix our eyes not on what is seen, but on what is unseen. For what is seen is temporary, but what is unseen is eternal." 2 Corinthians 4:16-18
May Vivian's family and friends find comfort in the tapestry of wonderful memories she left behind.



01/19/15 02:57 PM #2    

Klaus Hille

From the Class of '62

     Irvin High School


Dear Friends,

It is with great sadness that we report the passing of Vivian (Clapp) Falzetti, '63, who died of cancer yesterday afternoon Jan. 19, 2015 in Palos Verdes, CA.  She passed away in the loving company of her husband, Doug, and her son, Danny.  Her large family and legion of friends will miss her Angel's smile and her generous heart. 

She was a talented artist whose last work was illustrating Doug's book about their life at Crystal Cove, CA.  Doug and Vivian celebrated their 50th wedding anniversary there last summer.  Her brother Johnny Clapp as well as Doug were in the class of 1962.  We now turn our sadness at her death into warm thoughts and heartfelt sympathy for her family.

01/20/15 03:14 PM #3    

Karen Lynn Williams (Godwin)

Vivian was the first friend I made in El Paso.  We met when I moved from Japan to El Paso (Army Brat) and started in the 7th grade at Bassett.  Being new, being an only child, not knowing anyone, I was a bit lonely, but Vivian fixed that with her big heart and her joy for life.  We had lots of fun as only 7th graders can and I loved her big family--Bonnie, Diane, Winky, and John plus Vivian.

And then we moved again and I lost touch with Vivian until her family moved to the Northeast, and we were at Irvin together. Not as close, but still friends.  We had ROTC and other classes together, but after high school, I lost touch with Vivian again.

Then once more we found each other  on this very website.  It was fun catching up.  We had tenative plans to meet up if I ever got to California.  And now she is gone. 

But her smile, her laugh, her love of life will live on in the hearts of her family and friends.  It was such a joy to just have known her.

01/21/15 09:43 AM #4    

Elva "Jene" Hayden (Roy)

Vivian was my best friend from high school. When I was President of Y-Teens and Tri-Hi-Y, Vivian's parents let me drive their old VW beetle to take Vivian and me to certain meetings "downtown." I remember puttering up the hill on Montana, wondering if we would make it to the top. Whew. Made it. Now do we have enough gasoline to all the way back home? You never knew in those old VW's. So when you ran out, you kicked over the lever on the floorboard which gave you one more gallon and approximately 30-ish miles to find a gas station. And we would put 25 cents worth of gas in and continue running around to get to wherever we needed to go and back.

When I ran away from home in 9th grade because my parents were "mean," I stayed with Vivian's family and loved being around her family.

After high school, I married Dennis Kincaid who was friends with Vivian's husband, Doug, and we lived in Upland, California for 3 years at the same time Doug and Vivian lived near Los Angeles. We would go to the beach together sometimes, and my second husband, Frank Roy (not from El Paso) and I visited Vivian and Doug when they lived in Crystal Cove, near Palos Verdes.

We kept in touch over the years and Vivian stopped through Dallas on business trips once in a while and we would see each other. Doug also stopped on two different occasions to visit (once when I was living in Phoenix, once in Arlington, TX where I live now).

Death is hard to understand when it gets "out of order." Vivian is the youngest of five children and is the first one to die. It seems unnatural. I am 69 years old, and my 57-year-old sister, Barbara (a twin), died in February 2014. "Out-of-order" deaths seem more tragic for some reason than deaths that proceed according to FIFO (first in first out) rules.

Vivian was such an unassuming and sweet person. She was one of those "sunny" personalities that person gravitate towards, who always saw the best in every person and in every situation. I will miss her vibrant energy. I have spoken to Doug. Vivian will be cremated and the family will have a memorial service later.

01/21/15 09:50 PM #5    

Jim Dunlap

Karen, I had the same plans to visit Vivian (Palos Verdes is quite close to Oceanside; it's where I attended 7-9th grades before moving to El Paso) but didn't set my priorities correctly.  I share your feelings of regret.  Jene: great recollections.  It's great to know that you and Vivian were fast friends ever since Irvin.  Thanks very much for sharing.  Jim

01/22/15 11:42 AM #6    

Corlea Sue Haren (Plowman)

Sorry to hear of Vivian's passing. Beautiful smile and beautiful person.

01/22/15 06:38 PM #7    

Pam Davis (Cotten)

A big thanks to all of you who are responding to Vivian's passing and a celebration of her life, on this web site. This came today (1-22-15) from  Vivian's sister Diane Bartz.

Pam Davis Cotten ('62)

Diane wrote:

"The service for Vivian will be at 2 pm on Sunday  Feb 1. in Palos Verdes..... headed by George Baum, a pastor who means a great deal to our family and helped Vivian a great deal through this cancer ordeal.  It should be a meaningful service.  She was so loved by many.  
 We all understand that not everyone will be able to make the service, but are hoping that as many as possible will attend.
Thank you all so much for the many prayers, cards, letters and wonderful expressions of love and concern.  Guess God just needed her joy and abilities in heaven. " 


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